Then I got up at 4:30 for work…

As I prepared for work and then drove the 45-55 minute commute I couldn’t help but think of how much I didn’t love my life. Reflecting on what was going on that evening just a day or two before, I thought about what I was feeling. As I did, it occurred to me that what I was actually feeling was love for my family, not my life.

I love my family

I love my family more than I could possibly explain on this page. I have not been a perfect father, but I must have done a few things right because our son still wants to come over and still enjoys spending time with his dad. My son is 23 years old and still calls me daddy, even in public. I must have done something right.

But, it’s not just him. As parents, we hope and pray for our children to find good spouses. Our son certainly did. His wife has felt like part of the family since the day they started dating. She was able to handle us from the beginning and, if I’m honest, we are a lot to handle. Together, they have brought us our first grandchild. If you have grandchildren, you know what I’m feeling. If you don’t, just trust me, it’s pretty cool.

Our daughter is pretty amazing. Like so many girls, she is daddy’s girl. Even as a teenager, she’s still sweet. She may be fulfilling the contract that she signed for me when she was like 8 or 10 years old, but whatever the reason is, I’ll take it. 

No discussion of my family would be complete without talking about my wonderful wife. I like to tell people that we are basically a Disney movie. We met as teenagers and are living happily ever after. She was my high school sweetheart. I was 15 and she was 14 when we started dating. I really do feel like something out of a Disney movie, or a Hallmark Christmas special. Our relationship is not perfect and hasn’t always been easy, but it is really pretty awesome.

My life… not so much

I don’t hate my life, by any means. But, if I’m honest, there are a few things in my life that I don’t like. 

As I thought about this during my 45-50 minute commute, I realized that much of where my life was today was not by design. I had allowed most of my life to just kinda happen to me. 

Sure, there were parts of my life that were designed. After all, you don’t collect college degrees like Ash Ketchum catching Pokemon, by accident. Yet things like my physical health, finances, and even, for a large part, my relationships were pretty much on autopilot. The results have been kinda messy.

BUT THERE’S GOOD NEWS

The great thing is that my life ain’t over and, so long as I’m breathing I have an opportunity to change. In the 6 Pillars of Life, you and I can make a difference, no matter how far we’ve gone from where we want to be. If you’re not familiar with the 6 Pillars, check out this blog post, or go deeper with my book, The Restored Nurse, available on Amazon.

It really isn’t too late to get started building a life you’ll love and I’d love to help.

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Why do you need this course?

It’s so easy to lose yourself in your job, your titles, or your never-ending task lists.

This course will help you do 3 things:

1. Reconnect with who you are.
2. Define what matters most to you.
3. Identify real next steps to start aligning your life with what really matters most to you.

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I’m committing to 100 minutes per week of moderate activity during the month of June.

I want you to join me

I’ve shared my goal. Your journey is unique and your goal should be too. Regardless of what your goal is there is great power in sharing it with others who can encourage you and provide a little accountability if needed.

How do you join?

1. Fill out the form below to officially join MOVE MONTH.
2. When you get your welcome email, reply with what your MOVE MONTH goal is.
3. Join the Restoring Nurses Facebook group for encouragement and accountability during MOVE MONTH and beyond.
4. Share your journey throughout the month.

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“Will I know what to do when it matters?” 

The reality is that even more experienced nurses often ask this same question. Many of us are used to jumping into action when things happen at work. Still, the question remains, what would I do if I faced an emergency outside of work? At work, it’s much easier because even in the chaotic ER there is a sense of order. There is also help. 

What if an emergency happens when I’m not at work?

My son was choking

I often wondered the same thing. One day, when our son was a toddler, he and I went to have lunch with my wife. She was breaking up pieces of her hamburger and feeding them to him. Suddenly, I hear her call my name with clear stress in her voice. She had snatched him out of the high chair and was handing him to me. 

Quickly I realized that he was choking.

I grabbed him from her, flipped him over, and began doing back blows. Thankfully, after a couple of blows, he coughed and the hamburger came out. He was fine. In that moment I did exactly what I needed to do. I wasn’t thinking about it. By this time I had been a nurse for a couple of years, had worked at the hospital for about 6 years or so, and had taken basic life support several times. I had trained for this exact moment and, without even thinking about it, I was able to do what needed to be done. My training saved my son’s life.

It happened again

I remember on another occasion we were having a meal at my in-law’s house. I think it was Thanksgiving or Christmas. Everything was going well when, again, I heard my wife calling my name. I look up and realize this time it is my mother-in-law that is choking. I stand up and perform the procedure that I had been trained to do. After a couple of abdominal thrusts, she coughed up what she had been choking on. My training saved my mother-in-law’s life.

It’s not just about me

But, this isn’t all about me. More recently, I received notification that an old friend from church was in the emergency room after an apparent heart attack. My wife and I loaded up and went to the ER to be with his wife. As we sit in the ER waiting room the story of what had happened begins to be shared. Sitting next to me is a young woman I have known since she was an early teen, or even younger. Turns out that when this old friend collapsed, this young woman checked him out, found that he was pulseless, and began CPR. 

This story happened back in January or February of that year. That young woman graduated from nursing school a few months later. She hadn’t even graduated from nursing school, yet in the heat of the moment was able to step up and do what needed to be done. 

You can do it, too

It can be easy to look at my two stories and discount them because I had, by that time, been a nurse for a bit and had worked in the ER for a few years. However, this young woman hadn’t even finished nursing school. For a nursing student or even an inexperienced nurse, this young woman is much more representative of where you are and, probably, how you feel. As she and I talked, she confessed how scared she was. When I had to work on my son and mother-in-law, I was also scared. Yet we were able to act. That is true courage.

Courage is not the absence of fear. Rather it is a willingness to take action, even in the face of fear.

The point of all this is that you can do this too. Whether you are a nursing student, a new nurse, or have been a nurse for years, you can do this. You have what it takes to step up when the time comes, to take action in the moments that require it of you. 

Your training will save lives

One of the major factors that can help you be better prepared to take action is training. Take the training you are offered or required seriously. Learn all you can from that training. Look for opportunities for more training and experience. When you are on clinical rotations, look for stuff that’s going on around you and ask how you can be part of it. When I was a charge nurse in the ER I used to have nursing students do chest compressions in codes. There is no better spot to see all that is going on in a code than right there, in the middle of it all, doing chest compressions. Some didn’t appreciate it much at the time, but it turned out to be a great learning experience.

Look for opportunities to learn, wherever they may be. Someday you will use that training to save someones’ life. Maybe even someone you care about.

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The story was told by a man who had undergone back surgery. He spoke of the significant pain he was in and his inability to move by himself, due to the pain. He talked of how, at some point, two men came to assist him. He said that together they used the sheet to turn him over to his side as one unit. I could almost hear the relief in his voice as he talked of how good it felt to lay in a different position. 

Sometime later, during this same hospital visit, a nurse came in to check on him and he asked if he could, again, be turned onto his side. The nurse told him that it was no problem and began to put herself in position to roll the patient over. Under many circumstances, this is something that can be done with one person, especially if the patient is not particularly large, as this man is not. The man spoke up and told the nurse that she couldn’t do it alone, that it had taken two men to do it the previous time.

This is where the arrogance comes in.

The nurse responded that she was a trained professional and was completely capable of doing this on her own. She proceeded to slide her hands under the patient while he let out a scream of pain. The nurse stepped back and exclaimed, “you’ve had back surgery”. The man confirmed her assessment.

How is this arrogance?

Many would say that this nurse just made an innocent, honest mistake. On some levels this is true. However, it is the thought process that leads up to this mistake where the arrogance comes in. You see, when the patient said that the previous time that he had been turned it took two men, the nurse ignored him and proceeded to attempt to move the patient alone.

In that moment, she believed herself to be more knowledgeable and more capable than the two staff members that had previously moved the patient. Without even thinking she dismissed the patient’s words of caution and went about trying to do her own thing. While she likely would never admit it, it was arrogance that led her to take this course of action.

Pride goes before a fall.

This story is likely one of a great nurse who simply didn’t have all the information she needed. But, when the patient told her that it had previously taken two staff members to turn him, she should have taken a moment to pause and consider why it had taken two staff to do what she now thought she could do by herself. Had she done this, she would have realized that she did not have all the information she needed. This could have led her to review the patient’s chart and discover that he had back surgery and that she should really have two staff to turn him.

Pause is good.

In nursing, there are certain things that have to be done NOW. There are moments when taking action, or not, is truly a matter of life and death. Take too long to make a decision and something bad might happen. However, the truth is that the vast majority of the time this is not the case. In most cases, the task you need to perform can be delayed a short time without anything bad happening. 

For this reason, if you see, hear, or just feel that something isn’t right, pause. Take a moment to think about what you are seeing, hearing, or feeling. Make sure you have all the information you need. The minute or two it takes you to do this or to get the information you don’t have will cause no significant delay in care but could save the patient from a lot of pain, or something much, much worse. 

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